Co-Parenting and School Selection

As a separated parent, ensuring your child receives a quality education can be challenging, and it can be even more challenging when you and your child's other parent disagree on how to approach the issue. The recent article from the BBC highlights how thousands of children across the UK have missed out on their preferred secondary school place this year, leaving many parents feeling helpless and disappointed. However, there are several steps you can take to ensure your child still receives a quality education, even if you and your child's other parent don't agree on everything.

Find out About the School

It's also important to reach out to your child's new school as soon as possible to learn more about their policies and procedures. You may be able to arrange a visit or a meeting with the headteacher or school staff to discuss any concerns you may have. This can help alleviate any anxieties you or your child may have about the new school, and ensure that you are well-informed about what to expect.

Work as a team

The first step is to try and work with your child's other parent to find alternative schools that may still provide a quality education. Research different schools together and consider factors such as the school's academic record, extracurricular activities, location, and ethos. It's important to keep the lines of communication open and to try and involve your child in the decision-making process as much as possible. However, if you and your child's other parent can't agree on a school, you may need to consider seeking professional support, such as a family mediator or a lawyer who specializes in education law, to help you come to a resolution.

The first step in family mediation is to Book a MIAM

School Appeal

One option may be to appeal the decision of the Local Authority, which can involve providing additional information, or evidence, to support the child's application. The appeals process can vary depending on the school and the local authority, so it is important to seek advice and support from the relevant authorities or a legal professional.

https://www.gov.uk/schools-admissions/appealing-a-schools-decision

Could Home Schooling Work

If you can't agree on a school, it's worth considering other education options, such as home-schooling or online learning. These options may not be suitable for everyone, but they can provide a flexible and personalised approach to education that may be beneficial for some children. Again, it's important to involve your child's other parent in the decision-making process as much as possible and to seek professional support if needed.

https://www.gov.uk/home-education

Look After Yourself

Regardless of whether you and your child's other parent agree on a school or not, it's important to take care of yourself during this stressful time. Separation and co-parenting can already be challenging, and added stress can be overwhelming. Take time for self-care, speak to friends and family about how you're feeling, and consider seeking professional support if needed. By taking care of yourself, you'll be better equipped to support your child during the transition.